Damages [Re-posted From Spring 2019]

Title: DAMAGES Avoiding pain is natural. In fact, that's why it's there. Pain is a signal to the brain, informing us that something is wrong. Through our efforts to avoid the uncomfortable, we protect ourselves, our hearts, minds, and sometimes our lives. It's in this way that most people understand and cope with pain. Whether … Continue reading Damages [Re-posted From Spring 2019]

The Voice of Addiction [Copied from my Newsletter Column]

The Voice of Addiction Copied from my Newsletter Column. If you are an addict, chances are you know about the little voice. What's the little voice? You know, that whisper in the back of your mind telling you it's going to be okay. Sadly, it's not going to be okay unless you learn how to … Continue reading The Voice of Addiction [Copied from my Newsletter Column]

How Do I Know That I Love Her [Part IV]

Part IV So much has happened between that day in court and today. In many ways, I'm a completely different person. In some ways, I'm the same man that my wife married 30 years ago before I fell to drugs. One thing has remained constant throughout each chapter of my life; I love my wife … Continue reading How Do I Know That I Love Her [Part IV]

Let’s Not Turn Away

Every Friday evening, I attend an Addictions Counseling Meeting via Zoom. I've been listening to and speaking with this group of people for about two years. Some of the names and faces have changed, but the core group has mostly remained consistent. I care about them. The holidays are upon us. Unfortunately, for many people, … Continue reading Let’s Not Turn Away

How Do I Know That I Love Her [Part II]

Note to the reader: I'd like to take this opportunity to say this. At no point during our relationship was my wife weak or blind to what was happening. Her faith and love for me provided the strength to fight for our relationship. Part II The addiction raging within my mind was winning. Occasionally, I … Continue reading How Do I Know That I Love Her [Part II]

Why I Love Her [Introduction]

One particular morning last week, I woke up knowing that I had to do something immediately after making coffee. Two days after posting [Why I Love Her Part I], I pulled it back down. Why? Because I had made the mistake of posting something highly emotional without proper explanation. Why I Love Her is the … Continue reading Why I Love Her [Introduction]

Relapse Prevention Tools [Buying Time]

Last night during my Friday evening Drug Therapy Zoom Meeting, someone opened up about a recent drug relapse. I wanted to share what I told the gentleman last night. Once a person has decided to use, sometimes the outcome may be altered if they can buy themselves some time. We need to delete and erase … Continue reading Relapse Prevention Tools [Buying Time]

Graduation Day

Today was an incredibly important day for me. This afternoon, I graduated from an Outpatient Drug Therapy Program. If you have not read those posts, I've been in treatment for the past two years. During these last two years, I have built an incredible new life and made a few fantastic accomplishments. I have started … Continue reading Graduation Day

Careful What You Wish For [Addiction & Recovery]

Unfortunately for the addict, the enemy is addiction, and addiction has unlimited resources. Yes, our enemy has been planning for battle, going to war, and killing addicts since coping skills first came into existence. Like combat, the battle of maintaining sobriety is a fluid situation, and the enemy [addiction] is watching every move we make, … Continue reading Careful What You Wish For [Addiction & Recovery]